By: Sheikh Laiqa
In the heart of Kashmir, known for its breath taking beauty and rich culture, there exists a quiet struggle which many overlook: the challenges faced by children with special needs. These children, often labelled as “different,” are more accurately described as neurodivergent, each with unique abilities, perspectives, and potential. Yet, societal barriers and misunderstandings continue to overshadow their opportunities to thrive.
As someone deeply committed to inclusive education, I am familiar with the struggles and strengths of children with special needs. Unfortunately, many neurotypical students and even some staff members in schools fail to understand what it truly means to be a child with special needs. The term “special” is often used mockingly, and some children are laughed at for simply being who they are. While some students and teachers have shown genuine care and a desire to understand, others remain unaware. However, this ignorance is not entirely their fault. Awareness, empathy, and education are lacking and these are the very tools we need to build a more compassionate society.
The Role of Society and Government
Creating an inclusive and barrier-free environment is not solely the responsibility of educators or parents; it is a collective duty. The government must take active steps to ensure accessibility in public spaces, schools, and workplaces. Physical barriers such as inaccessible buildings and social barriers like stigma must be addressed through policies and community programs.
Institutions working for children with disabilities in Kashmir are doing commendable work, but more needs to be done. Too often, services become profit-driven rather than purpose-driven, prioritizing financial gain over the quality care and education these children deserve. We must remember that our work should be done with sincerity, for the sake of Allah and for the genuine betterment of these children.
Parents’ Greatest Concern: The Fear of the Future
One of the most heartfelt concerns shared by nearly every parent I’ve met is the future of their child after they are gone. Their greatest fear is that their child will suffer or become dependent on others. They hope, above all else, that their child can grow to be self-reliant and independent. This is a goal that we, as a society, must support. Little by little, step by step, we must help these children develop life skills and confidence to navigate the world with dignity.
The Importance of Accurate Diagnosis and Knowing Your Rights
Early and correct diagnosis is critical for children with special needs. It allows parents and educators to understand the child’s unique needs and provide appropriate support.
Without proper diagnosis, many children may not receive the interventions they need, affecting their growth and learning. Additionally, parents must be aware of their rights and their children’s rights—access to inclusive education, therapy, and healthcare is not a privilege but a right. Knowing these rights empowers families to seek the best support for their child.
Creating Safer Spaces Through Awareness And Action
As an Inclusive education specialist and advocate, my personal goal has always been to prioritize the safety and well-being of my students above all else, even before their learning goals. Only when they are physically and emotionally safe can they truly thrive and learn. Unfortunately, children with special needs often face bullying and even physical harm—both at school and in their communities. This is heart breaking and often a result of our negligence as teachers, caregivers, and members of society. We must be vigilant and attentive to the environments where these children spend their time. Unsafe surroundings can lead to accidents and preventable mishaps. It’s essential to create safe and supportive spaces for them, whether at home, in school, or in public places.
I would also like to acknowledge the inspiring efforts like the Save Kids Initiative launched and led by Dr. Raashid Fazili. This initiative aims at raising awareness about why and how parents and other caregivers in families and communities must prevent accidents and mishaps involving children. We must learn from such movements and commit to making our behaviours as well as environments safer and more inclusive for children with special needs.
A Painful Reality: The Need for Awareness and Kindness
I recall speaking to a mother whose child has Global Developmental Delay (GDD). She shared how a neighbourhood child wanted to play with her son, but his mother discouraged it, saying, “He is not normal.” Imagine the pain of hearing such words. As adults, we must reflect on what we are teaching our children. Are we fostering empathy or prejudice? Why aren’t we taking the time to understand disabilities and, at the very least, teaching our children to be kind?
Breaking Misconceptions and Harmful Taboos
Another critical issue in our society is the harmful belief that disabilities are a curse, a punishment from Allah, or even the result of black magic. These misconceptions create unnecessary fear, stigma, and shame, isolating families who are already struggling.
Disabilities are not punishments—they are part of human diversity. Every individual, regardless of their abilities, is a creation of Allah and deserves respect, dignity, and love.
We must work actively to break these stereotypes and educate our communities.
Not All Disabilities Are Visible
It is also important to understand that not all disabilities are visible. Disabilities can be physical, intellectual, developmental, or emotional. Some may be obvious, while others are hidden, making it even harder for people to recognize and understand them. This is why spreading awareness is so crucial.
Additionally, getting the correct diagnosis is essential for early intervention and proper support. Parents must be aware of their rights and their children’s rights so they can access the necessary resources and support systems.
Islamic Teachings on Compassion and Inclusion
Islam teaches us the importance of compassion, kindness, and justice. Allah (SWT) says in the Qur’an: “We have created you from male and female and made you peoples and tribes that you may know one another. Surely the most noble of you in the sight of Allah is the most righteous of you. Allah is truly All Knowing, All Aware.” (Surah Al-Hujurat, 49:13)
The value of a person lies not in their appearance or abilities but in their righteousness and deeds. Our beloved Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said: “Indeed, Allah does not look at your appearances or wealth, but rather He looks at your hearts and deeds.” (Sahih Muslim 2564)
These teachings remind us that every individual deserves dignity, respect, and love.
Disabilities are not flaws but opportunities to witness resilience, creativity, and strength.
What We Can Do Together
- Raise Awareness: Schools and communities should educate children and adults about disabilities. Understanding leads to empathy, and empathy leads to action.
- Encourage Inclusion: Create opportunities for children with special needs to engage in academic and social activities alongside their peers.
- Challenge Discrimination: Speak out against discriminatory behaviour. Promote a culture of respect.
- Break Misconceptions and Taboos: It is essential to transform the unhealthy attitudes rooted in misconceptions and taboos about children with special needs.
Embracing a positive outlook that views these needs as God-given opportunities to earn His pleasure and reward can encourage the provision of quality care and support for these uniquely gifted children.
- Support Parents: Parents need more than just resources—they need emotional and psychological support. Counselling services, guidance from psychologists, and encouragement from family members can help them feel that they are not alone. Families must come together to reassure parents that it’s okay to seek help and that they have a strong support system.
- Demand Action: Urge the government to implement policies for barrier-free infrastructure and inclusive education.
- Taking Meaningful Action: After reading this, don’t let these words remain words.
Act on them. Reach out to your neighbours, relatives, or anyone around you— whether in your community, at school, or while traveling. If you see someone with a disability, offer support respectfully and only if they ask for help. Unsolicited help can sometimes feel uncomfortable. Educate yourself about different disabilities and think deeply about how you can contribute in meaningful ways.
A Collective Responsibility:
As a community, our strength lies in how we support and uplift one another. The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) beautifully said: “The example of the believers in their affection, mercy, and compassion for each other is that of a body. When any limb aches, the whole body reacts with sleeplessness and fever.” (Sahih Bukhari)
Let us become that compassionate body, working together to ensure that no child feels excluded or unloved. Inclusion is not a one-day effort; it is a mindset and a responsibility we must carry every day.
Let us teach our children, remind our elders, and hold our institutions accountable. Let our actions reflect the mercy and kindness that Islam teaches us. Together, we can build a society where every child, regardless of their abilities, feels valued, loved, and empowered to thrive. It’s never too late to do something, be the reason someone smiles today.
A motto I deeply connect with and carry with me every day is- “People are for People.” Another principle I hold close to my heart is “Always do good to others for Allah’s sake and you won’t regret it.” Such reminders inspire me and you to support and uplift others with love and compassion.
May we all strive to be the reason someone smiles today. May Allah bless us with patience, gratitude, and unity as an Ummah. May He guide and bless our efforts. Āmeen!
Jazakum Allahu Khairan.
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